Guest Post: Dr. Anna + Happier Hormones

Struggling to Connect With Loved Ones? These 2 Hormones Might By Why + How To Fix Them

My dear friend, hormone expert, and amazing mom Anna Cabeca is guest starring on my blog today! She’s a hormone and anti-aging specialist. One of her specialties is helping women and men balance their hormones so they can feel better, look younger, and even lose weight.

I wanted to share her passion and insights into hormonal balancing, our desires for connection, and how to feel great in our own skin again.

At the end of this post you’ll see an offer for Dr. Anna’s Might Maca greens -

I personally use Mighty Maca (especially the cute little travel pouches) when I travel, and when I need a hormonal energy boost, to feel happy in my body, and when I know I need to lower my stress hormones.

Dr. Anna Cabeca's Might Maca

Dr. Anna Cabeca’s Might Maca

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Alex & Dr. Anna Cabeca

Here’s why, in Dr. Anna’s own words: 

Do you feel stressed, tired, lonely and disconnected from your relationships with others and even yourself?

Do you prefer to stay home rather than socialize?

Do you walk by people you know and not say hi because you don’t want to interact?

Are you missing the warmth of love and connection? Do you just not have the energy to connect?

What if I told you that feeling this way may not be your fault. Why? The answer is in your biology and your biology to a large extent drives your behavior. It’s very possible that two of the most important hormones in your body – cortisol and oxytocin – are waging war on each other and wreaking havoc on your life.


Allow me to explain how it all works:

Cortisol – one of your life-saving hormones – is an immediate responder in times of danger and stress. It’s our body’s natural anti-inflammatory. A perfect example of someone who runs on excess cortisol is a person who takes a vacation and immediately gets a cold. That happens because cortisol was naturally suppressing inflammation and inflammation makes you sick. Take that stress away, cortisol goes down…and boom any underlying inflammation flares up.

Sickness is just the beginning of the excess cortisol hit list. Chronic high cortisol can also lead to rapid aging, loneliness and depression.

Oxytocin is the powerful hormone of love bonding and connection. It’s the hormone we release in abundance during childbirth that overflows as we look into the eyes of our newborn. It’s also released in abundance with orgasm, laughter, play, hugging and giving. It’s the twinkle in your eyes and the smile on your face hormone! Yes! The peace, love and granola anti-aging hormone!

Cortisol and oxytocin oppose each other. They are the two boxers in a ring or two kids on a seesaw. When one goes up the other is forced to go down. The key is in balancing the two. I’ve helped thousands of women do just that and begin to live happy, full lives.

How did I learn how to create this balance?

This is where it gets personal. I struggled significantly myself and when nothing in my MD toolbox fixed the problem, I sought out another solution to save myself AND my family.

You see, several years ago, my family and I were traumatized when my son passed away in a tragic accident. We all experienced PTSD and I became clinically depressed, stressed to the max, sleepless, inflamed, infertile and hormonally imbalanced to say the least.

(To hear more about my journey and lessons, listen to my webinar here:)

I needed to find a way to live again for my family and myself. So I left my medical practice and we traveled the world… it was our healing journey. I came back pregnant, ready to make a new start. My children were best friends and healthiest ever. That was incredible. However, despite my enormous progress, I was still disconnected from myself and from my husband… and my marriage ended.

That loss allowed me to make a transformative discovery. I now recognize that chronic stress and PTSD trigger the cortisol-oxytocin disconnect and it may cause us to unconsciously walk away from things and people we love. Simply put, you may be walking away because cortisol won.

That discovery has since allowed me to help thousands of clients struggling with a similar disconnect BEFORE it’s too late. The key is an understanding the beauty in life is when oxytocin wins and that’s what I teach you to do.

I teach you how to put Oxytocin in the winner’s circle.

One winning set-up is to fuel your body with the nutrition it needs to thrive.
The green drink I created from my healing journey around the globe allows you to begin that process.

It’s called Mighty Maca and it’s specifically designed to support the adrenals, balance hormones and decrease inflammation.

I like to think of it as pure love in a delicious green drink – go oxytocin!

Mighty Maca is my gift to you today. I welcome you to give it a try here and I look forward to hearing how it fuels you.

Try Mighty Maca today:

To your health,
Dr. Anna Cabeca

 

P.S. From Alex: If you choose to buy any of Dr. Anna’s products, I will receive an “affiliate commission” which means she shares some of her earnings with me. Which is so cool! I love her product, and I only share products that I use and adore. I’m thrilled to share her with you, and use the few sheckles that come my way to keep on blogging, sharing, and creating great things for you. xo, Alex

 
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#20DaysTil40! Celebrate Alex’s 40th Birthday with 20 Days of Healthy Prizes!

 

I’m turning 40 on 3/27, and I am SO excited to celebrate the 40 blessed, wild, crazy, heart-filling and gut-wrenching years I’ve been honored to be alive.

I usually don’t get all that excited about birthdays, but this one feels BIG!

There is good science that points to an energy + momentum when we reach a decade birthday. My intention is for 40 to be vibrant, soul-deep, fun, and meaningful.

To really celebrate, I want to give away as much as I get from all of you – so I’ve put together over $1000 in prizes and am giving away 20 days of goodies!

Books, juices, my favorite healthy products, jewelry, and more are just a tiny way for me to say thank you for being a part of my online tribe – my “Clan of the Crave Bears!”

Enter Below! xo, Alex

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28 Fifty Shades of Body Shame

The Cravings Whisperer Podcast with Alexandra Jamieson

Are you comfortable with a little kink in your sexual life?

If not, why not?

Our society is thriving with controversy around body image and sexuality. That’s why I decided to call this episode Fifty Shades of Body Shame.

It’s time to stop listening to what society, self proclaimed experts and even to what our families are telling us and it’s time to start listening to our bodies. This is our real path to well being, lasting health and vitality.

I want you to feel lit up from knowing your desires and owning them. They are worthy and you are worthy for everything you crave in life.

This episode is all about discovering what feels good to you.

Also, I’m excited to share with you my sponsor, Perfect Supplements. I use their Cordyceps and Natural Calm Magnesium all the time – and am thrilled to partner with them to bring you the show.

As a special offer to my “clan of the crave bears” and listeners, Perfect Supplements is offering 10% off your order when you use the discount code CRAVE10 at check out! Click here to get your goodies!

You can Subscribe to the podcast on iTunes, SoundCloud, Stitcher or TuneIn

“When we feel sex is dangerous, food becomes our safe sex.” (Click to Tweet)

Show Notes:

  • The difference between shame and guilt
  • My personal journey with public shaming
  • Why millions of women have tied up relationships with food, dieting, sexual shaming & pleasure
  • The power of releasing toxic shame
  • Are you a part of internet bullying or shaming?
  • Why you should explore Inside her Sex
  • Who are Candida Royalle and Lady Cheeky
  • How food and sex are intertwined
  • The connection between blooming hormones and cultural “should-ing”
  • Were you ever taught about masturbation?

“When you repress your sexual desires it gives even more power to them.”  (Click to Tweet)

  • Why we need to have conversations around SEX and our Sexual Desires!
  • The root cause of our diverse association with food, dieting and sex
  • The confusion around being scared and sexy
  • My own personal sexual desires after a sexless marriage
  • Yes. It’s time to shut out the voices and follow your CRAVINGS
  • Why we shouldn’t do this alone… Get a book and/or a book club!
  • How you are worthy of your desires
  • If your body needs healing it is essential to nurture it with certain foods
  • The importance of exploring your sexual desires and life passions
  • How your cravings are your souls to-do list

“Anything that you resist persists… and ends up on your dinner plate.”  (Click to Tweet)

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“How to win at dieting and dating is trying everyone and everything.”  (Click to Tweet)

 
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Top Reviews for Women, Food, And Desire! Goop, FitBottomedGirls.com, Bustle.com!

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FitBottomedGirls.com named Women, Food, And Desire 1 of 5 books to Love Yourself Healthy – see the full list here:

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Goop.com, otherwise known as Gwenyth Paltrow’s health and lifestyle website, named Women, Food, And Desire their top non-fiction winter read for 2015!

See the whole thing here: http://goop.com/late-winter-reading/

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Bustle.com names Women, Food, And Desire 1 of 12 books to help you get through your divorce easier:

See the whole list here: http://www.bustle.com/articles/61076-12-books-to-read-thatll-make-your-divorce-a-little-bit-easier

 Get your copy of Women, Food, And Desire here! xo, Alex

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Healing Rituals: Tea Rituals | How to create healing rituals

I’ve learned that  you can learn to be happier just like you can learn to play ukulele or teach yourself Spanish.

One daily aspect of consciously learning happiness is to create healing + grounding rituals.

Rituals are any symbolic behaviors we perform before, during, and after meaningful event.

And they’re really everywhere in human culture:

 

Healing Rituals - Tea As Ritual

Healing Rituals – Tea As Ritual

  • Rituals are used by athletes, before and during games and contests, and studies show it helps to maintain or increase focus and performance
  • Rituals are used before meaningful events like weddings or ceremonies, and are used to help focus the energy and attention of large groups of people
  • Rituals are used to mark the passing of a loved one with funerals, and help people manage their grief and release the pain of loss

Our personal rituals matter much more than we realize. Recent studies have proved that our actions and thoughts are 40% habit – that means almost ½ of what we do and think is repetitive and happens without us thinking about it.

Sometimes life feels like a runaway train—it can seem like we don’t get to choose what’s going on in our daily lives.

When that happens, we can remind ourselves that we have the power to choose the way we live our lives, and the “personal brand” that we put on things.

I’ve been drinking tea since I was a kid with my mom, but now I set aside a little time and attention to make tea a ritual for rest, remembering good times, introspection, and creation.

One way to do this is through creating rituals in our lives that support and nourish us. Rituals and nurturing routines provide us with structure that grounds us and connects us to others.

They can connect us to the energy of the earth and seasons, our past, family, and community as well as help us to create the kind of environment where we’ll function best.

They also create a sense of predictability that can help us feel safe, and reduce the stress of uncertainty.
Rituals are rhythmic; they put us in sync with nature in a nurturing way.

They help us cope with the shifts and transitions we face daily, weekly, seasonally, and throughout our lives.

By creating structure in the form of a daily or weekly ritual, our minds can relax, and this frees up a lot of energy so that we can create the life we desire.

And they work.

Rituals help us manifest what we truly crave in life, by placing our energy where we want it most. CLICK TO TWEET + SHARE THIS!

Here’s what scientists are finding about our use of ritual:
performing rituals with the intention of producing a specific result appears to be enough for that result to come true.

  • One of my intentions was to bring more awareness to our family meals even at the end of hectic days. We set the table with cloth napkins and light a candle with every meal we eat at home. I’m teaching my 8-year old son how to light a candle, and how to set the table, so we has a ritual with calm, loving eating as well.
  • Another intention was to feel in control of my finances, so my partner and I created monthly “money dates.” You could call them cash rituals.
  • I also wanted to wake up my body after a long, cold winter, and created a morning yoga ritual – every morning, for 10 minutes, I stretch and then make my tea.
  • Music is a big deal in my family of musicians, and I want to pass that love of music to my son. Now when I give him a bath, I bring in my ukulele and we sing together as I learn a new song. (AND we put our instruments up on the wall in the living room, so we see them and take them down more frequently – a great way to trigger yourself into doing your rituals!
Ritualize your creativity by putting your art in full view.

Ritualize your creativity by putting your art in full view.

If you’re here you’re interested in healing and growing. That’s what my “clan of the crave bears” is all about. Healing the body, healing relationships, and growing a crave-worthy life.

So this week, focus on creating a ritual to heal an area of your life, or intentionally place your positive energy in a direction or on a project you want to create:

HOW TO CREATE RITUALS FOR A CRAVE-WORTHY LIFE:

Get specific about your intention + the actions the ritual will embody:

  • Why – you intention for the ritual (loving – no voodoo, framed in the positive)
  • When – at what time are you going to do the activity? Morning? After dinner? Spring or Winter? Sundays?
  • Where – is it portable or does it depend on a place?

Examples of Healing Rituals

  • Walking Ritual: at your favorite time of day, dawn, dusk, or after lunch – not for “exercise” but for feeling your body in nature
  • Learning Ritual: memorize a poem, playing a song, or some other new skill once a week or every evening
  • Friend Ritual: thursday night dinner with a friend, Sunday tea with a friend at a bookstore cafe
  • Gratitude Writing Ritual: For 1 week, write down 3 things that you’re grateful for at the end of dinner.

One of my Facebook friends created an “I Hate Mondays” playlist of uplifting songs and motivating music to help perk her up when she was having Monday Blues -

IDEAS FOR NEW FOOD RITUALS:

  • setting the table with napkins, forks, lit candles, flowers
  • Simply lighting a candle before you eat anything, and sitting down to acknowledge your desire to digest and enjoy
  • 5 deep breaths before you begin eating
  • 8-12 ounces warm lemon water upon waking to wake up your liver and hydrate your brain
  • saying a gratitude out loud at the end of the meal: that was delicious! I feel perfectly full and satisfied!

As you build rituals into your life, you build a lifestyle that supports your healthiest self.

I want to hear your favorite rituals!

In the comments below, share your favorite ritual, or tell us what you’re going to try first!

xo,

Alex

 

 
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